Filipina women

[Jim]

I read a lot of posts on two Philippines web sites. They deal with living and retiring in the Philippines, not just dating and relationships but that topic comes up frequently.

There are indeed stories of men getting taken by disingenuous ladies. Almost all of them are situations that even the most naïve person should have been able to recognize…people meet on the Internet, the man sends money to a woman he hasn’t met. Some have great relationships until she gets off the plane in the US (sound familiar).

But the purpose of my post is to tell you that it is clear to me that relationships with Filipinas work out much more often than not. There are a ton of men who are happily married. The age differences with Filipina are much greater that with Latinas or AW. Most of the men report really happy relationships. Since the board doesn’t deal primarily with couples, a person has a lot more reason to stay on the board irregardless of the success or failure of a relationship. I will tell you that IMHO relationships with Filipina succeed far more often that with Latinas.

Why is that. The Filipina woman is different in two major ways. I am not making a judgment whether these are admirable characteristics or not but they are consistent with the majority of Filipina. I’ll offer personal examples for Divina but these observations appear to be typical of most Filipinas.

(1) The women absolutely want a man to take care of them…they want a man they can admire and look up to. They are willing to let the man make most of the decisions. They also want to take care of their man and devote their lives to him.

We are looking for where we want to live in the Philippines and Divina is willing to let me make that decision. I really have to probe to get her to express any of her wants. She appears to just want to be with me and nothing else matters.

I got mad at poor restaurant service and she scolded me, “You’re a teacher”. We needed to wash two shirts at the end of the last trip and I was going to let the hotel do it and she wanted me to just buy detergent and wash they in our hotel room. It seemed like such a colossal effort to save a couple of dollars but I finally let her talk me into in. She jumped up and down like I had given her a diamond ring. She was overjoyed that I was letting her take care of me.

(2) The Filipinas are naturally happy even if they have nothing apparent to be happy about (like having a dull hopeless impoverished life). They appear to be far less affected by first world materialism than women in Latina America. They really appreciate little things a lot.

In an earlier hotel laundry incident, our hotel in Cebu didn’t return her favorite outfit and we didn’t notice until we were in Dumaguete. I wanted to go shopping for her but she refused to let me buy her any clothes even to replace an item which was lost. She always acts like I’m the only reason she’s happy even if we’re doing something she’s never done before like flying or staying at a fancy hotel.

There are all types of women in every country but the two traits I described above are more abundant in the Philippines that in Latina America.

I am talking with a young lady in the Philippines who is 28 y.o. and I mentioned the age difference, and she RATHER have an older guy (I'm 48). She has two kids but that has never been a problem for me as I have three (all grown) and love kids. But the 'huckster' element does bother me (whith Latinas also). This is especially true because we met online at a Christian website.

That is why I have been looking at the agencies and getting good referrals as this will eliminate a lot of the gold-diggers (I hope).

We will see.....

Jonathan

[El Capitan]

Jonathan...take it one day at a time, and see where it takes you. Hell, if the alarm bells start going off, you'll know it, just be pragmatic about it until you get to know this woman...hell, she may be on the level!!!

Keep us posted...and good luck!!!

By the way...you need to go pick yourself an Avatar...just go back to "My Profile", "Edit My Profile", scroll down, and pick one!!

Good to have you with us!

[roupple]

I have been on the Cherry Blossom sight for the past few months now and have met many ladies htere and age does not seem to be a problem , but if I brought one here to USA, it might become one I have thougth about moving to another country where my lady lives, regardless if its the Phils, Colombia or Ukriane or Russia. I have nbeen the latter and the ladies are beautiful and they enjoy being ladies, but they are from Eastern Europe. I plan to go to the Phils soon and love to go to Colombia also. I must admit, it is easy to get caught up and seeing dso many beautiful ladies, that I never marry one. I am at point ijnmy life, where I am ready to settle down with the right woman and have life with her, instead of running around the globe and wondering, if there ia better one the next plane stop I believe you know what I mean. If I decide to live in one of these countries, I take my time and then I have many maybe to choose from

[roupple]

JIm, so what were your conclusions on nice places to live in the PHILS? What were the prices for homes to be built? Can you own land there? Also how long can you stay there on a visa from the USA?

[Rogbo]

Jim , I am open to the concept of areas other than LA for living, The PI had not entered my mind until lately introduced on this board . Since then I have given it a lot of thought, please keep the information coming.
Roger

I spent 2 weeks in Colombia last July and really liked it so much that I am now taking Spanish classes and planning to go back next summer for a month or so. But now after reading all the posts here about the PI, I am starting to think that sounds even better. I love both Latin and Asian girls, and filipinas seem to be a great combination of both! I had a very hot filipina gf a couple years ago, but she moved to the US when she was 7 and unfortunately was completely Americanized, even had a BS in women's studies! She seemed to like living in my house with almost no expenses for over a year, but left me after deciding that she needed to be "independent." This was conveniently a couple months after I bought her a boob job that made her look a little like pornstar Miko Lee, so at least those were a couple great months! Now that I have read everything here, I want to learn more. Even Austin's complaints about a few things gave me good ideas, for example, I joined cherryblosom a week ago and have already received over 140 emails and "smiles," mostly from cute 18-23 year olds (I am 36), and I am not even a paying member yet! And of course most of these girls are in the PI, but a few were from China too. I have only received maybe 10 or so emails/winks on amigos.com from this age group, and that's after sending out over 200 winks and maybe 50 emails myself and paying for a membership there. That has to mean something! I have joined several yahoo groups and it takes forever to find out so little info. I thought livinginthephilippines.com was kind of helpful but still leaves me searching for more. Any ideas?

[Jim]

Bomero,

I'm going back in October for about ten days. Manila and Davao and DIVINA are my focuses this time. The Phils are tremendously varied and I'm deciding between Davao and Dumaguete to begin my reirement.

Gatorfan.

I was committed to LA with over 20 trips and living in Costa Rica for seven month. In two days in March, I changed my mind completely.

Fewer Filipina women are calculating and out for themselves. My point of view, basically is that when I find the right woman, I will change her life completely for the better. I want a woman who is equally committed to my happiness.

There are tons of stories of happy couples with huge age differences and men who are pampered and loved completely by thier filipina wives. Bringing any third world woman to the US is more complicated and at your age probably a necessity.

There are fewer filipina women with a plan B (the one that doesn't include you) than Latina but caution is definately required.

[LastLion]

I would say with my 2 or 3 Filipinas experience, that they will take to americanization like no other. have you aver seen w=one of those loud mouthed filipinas! I have they are all over here in the san francisco area. They are obnoxious and take americanization to the limits!

Just my 2 cents!!

[Jook]

LL, I dunno about that. I hate classifying and stereotyping people no matter how tempting it may be. As I previously mentioned, I'm separated from a filipina who I brought to the US. No hard feelings between us. Anyway, here in jersey city there's also a very large population of filipinos, possibly approaching los angeles. And yes, there are many that are loud and obnoxious, but I'm not sure if that's any different from any other ethinic group, gringos included. And there are many americanized filipinos that are polite and courteous.

One thing for sure is that the sweet quiet somewhat subservient person you bring to the US changes in due course. But I seriously doubt that's any different from any other ethnic group.