Six months with Mitch

[Jim]

Sunday June 14th is Mitch and my six month anniversary. Although I realize that six months isn’t long enough to be sure about anything, this is only the second time in my life that I was totally happy with a relationship after six months. As most of you know, I am 61 and Mitch is 18 and some people wondered about the huge age difference. So I promised to see how things were going after six months before I posted a summary.

Here’s why I am so happy with Mitch.
(1) She is constantly showing me love, kissing me and showing me affection. It is almost too much but I decided that you can’t really have too much love or too much money. In the words of Encinoman she is “convinced”. There is 100% certainty by all her actions that she loves me and not my money.
(2) She has created an almost perfect living situation for me. In terms of helping her family, it costs me $20 a week. I also give Mitch $10 a week spending money. She showed me the other day that she has almost $100 saved. She really isn’t preoccupied with money. Her sister stays with us as a nanny for $15 a week plus room and board. The baby is cared for when we go out and the house is extra clean. Grace even sweeps the street in front of our house. She’s friendly happy and easy to get along with.
Also I have always been treated as Jessamae’s father. I make discipline and diet decisions and she absolutely adores me. A very happy home.
(3) Mitch is a great companion. We’ve seen movies, Broadway plays and concerts. She drives a car and she is a participant in everything I do. On Monday she got a headband from hash for her 25th hike. Since we are celebrating six months that means she has attended EVERY hash. She has the option of just attending he party but she almost always chooses to go on the strenuous hike instead of taking it easy.
(4) She is so pretty and sexy and my friends adore her. She gets along with everyone. One of the adjuncts to hash is the Wolf Pack which is like a bachelor’s party for hashers every couple of months. Wives and GFs are not allowed unless they are part of the entertainment. Mitch and one of her friends are the only ladies allowed to attend.
Last month they had a dance contest with six ladies competing for four prizes. Mitch finished third although she was the only girl who wasn’t topless. She is such a great dancer and so much fun. Everyone loves her and I am really proud that my GF is so sexy. This is a small part of our time (only twice in six months) but I don’t mind a bit. She won $25 and was really thrilled,

What faults does she have?
(1) Tampu. This is the typical Filipina bad mood. When Mitch is mad she goes silent and withdraws into herself. I have been told that “women everywhere do this” but it’s different here. First she doesn’t do it to manipulate me…it’s a cross between anger, and depression. The only solution is to wait awhile and then she asks me if I’m still mad at her. I have found a “tampu botton” on her side to turn it off [I tickle her] but it doesn’t always work. Waiting does.
(2) Irrational jealousy. Mitch reads my emails and the text on my cell phone. I don’t love either of these two behaviors but in the scheme of long term reality, I can live with these items. I thik most Filipinas exhibit tampu, and jealousy, but offset it with extreme devotion to the man. Magpalayaw is pampering their man.

Mitch’s age doesn’t really play a role in our relationship. I will say a positive as it relates to school. She dropped out of school during her first year of high school due to her parents not being able to afford the fees. In January she started an ALS [Alternative learning Center] program at a local HS which is equivalent to a GED program. This was up to six hours a week and all I could say was it was better than nothing. In June, when the new term started, her teachers allowed her to go full time to the HS.

Now for those of you who might be bothered by Mitch’s age, having a GF in a HS uniform might seem a little weird. Attending HS full time was an option in which Mitch would get a complete HS education and in three years she’ll be as able as any HS graduate to continue her education. It actually should be better than her first time around since she has a computer, I can help her with homework and she can afford school supplies. This is an example of her age being an advantage. She will definitely change a lot as she gains maturity but I will be able to guide her. I will probably like the result and we should still be compatible.

So that’s the six month summary. It seems more and more that this might be permanent.

[SingleFather]

Jim,

You know Jim some of us have ragged you about the age difference. Well I say this now to myself " shut the f**k up SF NM about the age difference".

I take my hat off for you posting your life here with your honest posts. You got balls.

I wish and hope things keep going well for you and Mitch.

The main thing is you a very happy man and enjoying your life.

.

[Cubafro]

Nice summary Jim and hope for you that it will last longer and longer between both of you..As SFNM said my hat is off even though I would not still see myself in a such big difference age couple..But that is not the point so live your life at the fullest with the respect you showed

Cuba

[Sailover]

Man, you make me laugh! My girlfriend in her HS uniform! Well, at least she has a date for the prom!!
And as far as tampu, I would prefer that over the Latin over the top reaction to the same snooping. It must be a woman thing. 'And just who is this Mary you are writing????"
"uh, my mother? Who you have met?"

[Benjio]

Congratulations J!...and thanks for the detailed post. Women, no matter where they're from, are mysterious creatures. Hearing about the personality of those that I don't know personally has always given me a better perspective on how to deal with the ones I do know. Much appreciated!!!!

[rpcv]

Originally Posted by Jim

Sunday June 14th is Mitch and my six month anniversary. Although I realize that six months isn’t long enough to be sure about anything, this is only the second time in my life that I was totally happy with a relationship after six months.

Six months isn't a long time but when u are living together/seeing each other daily, that is HUGE. (maybe the equivalent of 1 yr of long distance dating IMHO). Sounds like things are going well so congrats!

[Jim]

I've heard about American couples who are married 20 plus years and then he retires. Now their together 24/7 instead of the normal 3 hours a day plus weekends when he was working and sometimes they find out they preferred to 3 hours a day together.

Before she started school it was indeed 24/7 and you do find out if you can get along because if you get on each other's nerves, there is no place to hide.

Two weeks ago, Mitch showed up at hash at the bar after class in her uniform, She went to get me and the car keys to change and attracted lots of attention. I told my friends we were making a movie.

Making a movie? LOL. When I was in Angeles City I met a lot of Australians and their Filipina GF. I remember one guy named Niles (I think that was his name) he was about 70 (or maybe 70+). He was in good shape for a 70 year old. His GF (wife?) told me she was 42 and had been with Niles since she was 28. She seemed very happy and proud of it.

[Whitey]

Congrats Jim. I always enjoy reading your posts, and appreciate your honesty, openness, and "coolness under fire".

Whitey

[DennisLevy]

Jim

i wish you al the luck in the world with Mitch. I can only shake my head in admiration at your style.

....And it looks like Im back in the market. As much as I cared about my girlfriend and we were together exclusively from the third week of March until this morning, I think its time to re-test my theories and be the single windbag again!

Too many ups and downs and she left one time too many. Im 56 and I aint begging groveling or running after women especially in Colombia. and what I learned (which I already knew is in Colombia), if a beautiful woman isnt married at 40 and without kids, there are...reasons.

Good luck to all of you guys.

Dennis