The One that got away!

[John Wayne]

EMan....If it is the right one, she can make you bounce off the walls, and even have day dreams about nasty things in the middle of the afternoon

John Wayne, LOL Sounds like what every man is looking for. If says he ain't, I would conclude he is either a liar or a fag.

[John Wayne]

That is why smart men look to places where the females are not so spoiled and not being considerate to the male half of a relationship, most of them know which side of the bread has the butter on it.....

I have heard of to many stories of AW saying....F*ck that asshole, I am going to take him to the cleaners.....MOF been there...done that....

Originally Posted by Charlie640

great Post WM !! You do have quite a knack for writing.



There's a saying, or maybe the lyrics of a song, that says something about "if the Love is true is will always return" . Don't be too surpised

if one day she is knocking on your door again. The question is will you be

available to answer.



How could she just move to BOG if she has 3 businesses going in BAQ??

Well from a girls point of view, I'd tell you although "dating your ex's bestfriend" may be common to some, I think is an absolute noooooooooo specially if it was a serious relationship. Think about it. Doing it sends the wrong message about the one who does it. I don't mean to judge anyone but I won't date my bestfriend's ex-boyfriend. All relationships are based on respect and loyalty. There has to be a limit. There are right things and wrong things and non of those are relative in my eyes.



Guys tell me the truth, can you honestly tell me that you would actually marry a woman who dated you right after you broke up with her bestfriend without wondering if she'd do it again.........., maybe with one of your friends????????? come on .........ohhh and don't tell me "oh yeah but the ex went off with her ex B, to that I say " it doesn't matter what she does the only thing that matters is the person you choose to be by actions not talk , talk talk."



I know men and women speak different languages, but you guys need to know although ladies love to hear those wonderful things you tell gils, some of us judge not by character but by actions. So if you want to attract a marriage material lady, then you know what you need to do.



If TFW had any hope his gal would come back one day, reguardless wether he wanted her back or not, by dating her best friend he just ruinned all of his chances. If at all he just helped her confirm she made the right desicion by going back to her ex.



With this I'm not saying sue did things correctly because she didn't (what she did was wrong). We all deserve to be loved for who we are without being compared to someone else and no-one should settle for less. But then again that's very hard to do when you start a relationship on the rebound from the last so why expose yourself to this type of situations?

Angie

[Cap'n Jib]

Wow…for the FIRST time I disagree with something Angie has said. Naturally, I still respect her views. I do not get that "Doing it sends the wrong message about the one who does it." It is either over or it isn't.

Granted I have a few more years (and for that matter, miles on my old body) but I have seen and heard things that defy a black and white decision. I’ve know men and women who marry each other AFTER their spouses have died. The four of them were the best of friends. I’ve known individuals, who for one reason or another, past through a group of close friends…one right after another….and there was still respect for all concerned and the group still hangs together.

The difference, as I see it, is that no one in the above examples, felt the need to ‘own’ another person (i.e. a friend) or a relationship (courtship with the intent to marry). The IMPORTANT thing is IF the OTHER makes you feel good. Are you are comfortable being with them? If so then that is all that matters. Putting 'artificial barriers' between people serves no real purpose. Choices are made and everyones' should be respected.....especially if it works out!

Of course I could be wrong….yet again.

Angie, I think you are way off base here. Keep in mind Sue broke off the relationship with wingman. He can date (or marry) anyone he pleases. If you are both in love it doesn't matter who knew who. Go for it and be happy. Life is too short to worry about what people think.

[Micky10]

Every situation is different, depending on the people involved. Our personel points of view may be close to anothers, or very far apart. On the one hand, Sue's semi-ex, was taking her down the isle to marriage, while TWM was not sure of his actions. On the other hand, it seems, Sue was settling for the best deal NOW. On the count about TFW and Sue's best friend, that is really dependant on those two people and how they deal with each other and the reality of the situation. I do not think that her being Sue's best friend automatically makes it a deal breaker. Another thing is that TFW was romantically involved with Sue for a relatively short time period. I will agree with Angie that the ACTIONS of a person, man or women, say more about a person than words, character or history. I just hope that EVERYBODY finds their Dora, no matter the path.

Love - Micky

[Airto]

As I remember from growing up it wasn't a good thing to end up with one of your ex's friends it was something that just looked bad. However this saga has different turns to it. From what was said in the post I gathered that Sue really had her heart set on getting married and accepted her former novio's offer. On that note I don't see a problem with WingMan and the best friend being together but It may cause Sue to wonder if there may have been something going on before she accepted the proposal. If she came back the best friend would no longer be the best friend. Sue's actions sparked the drama to begin with. To put it bluntly WingMan and the best friend can do what they bloody well please, they are both free.
What do you think about this WingMan? Do you have the slightest problem being with the best friend and if Sue returned what would you do? dump the best friend maybe or maybe not?

[John Wayne]

I doesn´t really matter, a few years down the road I think Sue is going to be saying what kind of a mistake she did make either way,....

OH, I knew I shoud have married the other one.....

Pretty much of a flip flopper it sounds to me and future problems.....

I personaly would look elsewhere, and keep the friend if he is truly worthy of that reference, they are better than money....

The ocean is full of fish, all ya have to do is have the gear and go to the right spot....

Good Luck WM....

[Charlie640]

I think from the standpoint of WM having any hopes of possibly getting back with Sue in the future there gone now.