What Do Family and Friends Think?

[Gladiator]

Hello, I recently joined this site and am looking forward to learning from those who have experience with Latin Women as well as offering whatever I can as well. My question is primarily for American men who have dated or are currently dating a Latin Woman sotb. Have you found the responses from friends and family to be primarily positive or negative when they found out you were dating a woman in another country?

If they were negative, how did you deal with it and thus move forward in a successful relationship?

[HonkyTonk]

Gladiator, 1st off welcome to GT where we drink it strait from the bottle, no watered down BS.

With me it was positive. If it wasn't? To quote Clark Gable: "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn."

[BIG E]

Welcome to the board.

Why would they give you a hard time about it? If she is a good person, you know her well, and you did everything the right way... what is the problem?

[John Wayne]

Yes welcome, and no watered down BS.....

My mother told me when I was leaving home at 16 years to go out in lifes big adventure....

Don't you bring back no Pickaninnies back to me to bounce on my knees and look up at me and say Grandma.....

I swear she said it.......

But later on in life when I brought my family from Nicaragua home to Virginia where she lives, and she did in fact bounce on her knees my mistizo Indian/Gringo youngins......

she cried for joy.......

I never mentioned to her what she said.....

[Ohio Al]

Gladiator -
Welcome to the board.

As for my friends and close family - they witnessed the crappy marriage I endured when I was married to an AW, afterwards they all said that I deserved to be happy and if it meant being with a Latina they were all for it.

I leave for Colombia in 3 weeks on a journey that I hope will be eye opening and perhaps even life changing. All my friends are rooting for me and hoping that it's a sucessful trip.

Good luck to you, and if I can offer any advice it's to read the forums and listen to the veterans. It's amazing how much great information they will pass your way that will save you time, money and heart-ache along the way.

Al

[Gladiator]

Hey guys, thanks for the welcome. This place is truly a Godsend in terms of hearing and learning from those who have walked the road toward finding and loving a Latin Woman.

[John Wayne]

I don't think it is as much as finding a Latin woman, as it is for a man to find a woman that has not been contaminated with life in the fast lane, and think that high maintenance is Standard Operating Procedure.....

Most of us are just home boys that want a "Real" life.....To make a woman happy, and in return, the same....

Some of us have found ready made families that need a man in the picture, and to add to it, and some of us have been widowed and young enough yet to want to return to those family values before tradigy struck, and some of us are just young Pu$$y hunters for the time being......

Please excuse my being direct, but life is what it is......

[Gladiator]

Originally Posted by John Wayne

I don't think it is as much as finding a Latin woman, as it is for a man to find a woman that has not been contaminated with life in the fast lane, and think that high maintenance is Standard Operating Procedure.....

Most of us are just home boys that want a "Real" life.....To make a woman happy, and in return, the same....

Some of us have found ready made families that need a man in the picture, and to add to it, and some of us have been widowed and young enough yet to want to return to those family values before tradigy struck, and some of us are just young Pu$$y hunters for the time being......

Please excuse my being direct, but life is what it is......

True! I don't want to strictly categorize Latin women, but I just like many of you guys want that real life with whoever it is to be.

[Cap'n Jib]

What your or my family thinks about the matter is one thing, what other Gringas think is something else.

Went to a party one night and was asked many times during the evening WHY I was engaged…or about to be engaged, I can’t remember which, to a Latina. After the usual inane comments/congratulations at the beginning of the evening, matters took on a life of their own. None of the women appeared to give a damn as to what I said my reason was. They had already formed their opinions and that was that.

The liquor started to loosen their inhibitions and no less than three separate instances occurred where a Gringa took me aside and TOLD me why I was getting married to a Latina. Often it was a number of reasons running the gambit from 1) a hot passionate bedroom companion (not exactly a TOTALLY a bad idea I am willing to admit) 2) a submissive woman I could push around (their lack of knowledge concerning Latinas was showing here) 3) someone different or strange that I would soon tire of, and 4) I didn’t want a REAL (i.e. Gringa) woman who could think for herself (an extension of number two in many ways).

As the party was in my honor…or so they said, I gave my self leave to express my views honestly after listening to this crap for a couple of hours. I told the first one to drag me aside that I chose a Latina because they were real women and TOTAL woman. A Latina felt no need to pretend to be a man, in order to get the respect she craves…..and deserves as a woman.

To the second I said, the ‘insecurities’ that appeared to be evident in a Latina were much less of a burden for me to handle than the insecurities of the average Gringa I have know.

To the last one, as I recall, I said that the Latina had a highly developed sense of self discipline and knew when to open her mouth and when to keep it shut. There is a huge difference between being submissive and being stupid.

Too bad none of them accepted my first answer. I'm in love that that woman!

And what about now? Of our friends, not a single Gringa has said anything bad or snide about my wife. Not one!

[Jim]

This is a very accurate statement of how our quest is perceived by the general population in the US. Many men also can't understand why we go to foreign countries to look for women. These are men who have never been and who accept an unhappy relationship with an unexciting woman because they don't want to change the status quo.

In the final analysis, they don't understand and it doesn't matter what they think.