side note to cartagena trip report part 4

From the very beginning, I've maintained a friendly relationship with both CG and BG and all the girls I've written to, meaning that we never talked about marriage or anything serious, it was a process of getting to know each other, we're all only friends. Sure we talked about what we wanted in our future, but staying cool and not allowing us to get ahead of ourselves. I'm not in a rush or desperate to get married, they know that and that has helped me weed out many of the girls I've contacted in the past. Some girls wanted me to fly down right away or talk about getting married without really knowing me, I'm not interested in that. Tell a woman that you're in contact with more than one and that you will travel to colombia in 8 months to meet them and see how many stick around, not many. CG and BG stuck around from the beginning, which is why I had to meet both. I
have also gained their trust and both know that I wouldn't do anything inappropriate. The thing that has helped is being honest from the beginning, telling them what is going on at every stage. CG is very sure and confident of herself, not in conceited way, but she knows she has a lot to offer
and that's something that has attacted me to her from the start. Here's something that happened to me before I made the trip which shows what kind of person CG is. I had been talking to both girls weekly a few months before leaving. I began to notice a change in personality in BG, things she said that bothered me that I couldn't pick up through emails but noticed in telephone conversations, so my interest in her was on the decline before I made the trip.I had told BG that I was going to be with her but honestly I wasn't looking foward to it, even thought of backing out. Well, I mentioned this to CG and guess what she told me. CG insisted that I make the trip to santa marta to meet BG, can you believe this? Any other
woman would have been glad that I wasn't interested in seeing the "other" woman but not CG. She told me, go see her, see if she's the same in person as on the phone, she said sometimes people get nervous on the phone or are more comfortable in person, but only by making the trip will I know for sure. She then told me she would be waiting for me when I returned, CG is strong.